Thoughts you didn’t ask for from me – the wife of a hard working man, a mother of 3, and one of many non essential hairdressers, during a plandemic.

1. You found out who your friends were this year, so thank yourself and thank them. (A special thank you to the ones who have shown their true colors and seen themselves out.)

2. Your marriage has been tested, and if you’re still together, with the exception of abuse and infidelity, you will now be able to get through everything. Hard G.

3. Your therapist is now on speed dial if she wasn’t already. (Margie has been on speed dial since 2017.)

4. If your husband is lucky enough to go hunting, you are in turn going to home goods and or target for every trip into the woods he does make. And, at a moments notice. With a gun if you want. #2020

5. You are so thankful and eternally blessed for your kids, their health, and innocence while also so thankful for when they sleep over at nana’s.

6. Door dash, instacart, shipt and takeout fees are WORTH THEIR WEIGHT IN GOLD.

7. Time is an illusion.

8. If you were lucky enough to work this entire year without any interruptions, you were not in the same boat as many, not even the same storm. Be thankful. Pay it forward.

9. Donald Trump is your president. (this song)

10. You gave up wearing a bra or makeup or both 5-7 days a week.

11. You are now in deep realization and complete understanding of who and what is important and essential to your well being, happiness, and success.

12. If a friend can come to you, talk about whatever they want, but you can’t go to them and feel open to do the same, they’re a friend you should permanently socially distance yourself from.

13. When someone calls you, let them talk. They need to vent. This is an unspoken rule.

14. Neighbors are silent saviors. Impromptu besties, babysitters, cup of sugar lenders, and they know about the extra bag of onions/ice/eggs in your garage fridge. Don’t fucking call on them for NOTHING. (And certainly NOT for Cuomo.)

15. Therapy works.

16. So does a 6 pack.

17. So does a bowl hit.

18. So does minding your own damn business.

19. Humans and what they carry inside their heart is what has kept you going, be kind.

20. And last but certainly not least – 2020 has taught us so much. Who we want to be, who we really are. Who we want around us. And who is *actually* who they say they are. We have gained an insane understanding of who and what truly matters and is necessary for survival in this life. Going forward, bask in the kindness of another. Marinate in the love you have received. Sit with the warmth someone has shared with you, even if from miles and miles away. And then take that kindness, love and warmth, realize how much you needed it, and then give it back out in other ways 🤍🙏🏼

A mask to me, means something different than it means to most. This pandemic, Lord knows I have my own thoughts on it, so I thank my friends who have listened to me, entertained me, and opened their mind up after a conversation with me. Who I am in this world is just a drop of water in the ocean that is what God is to me. Who He is. When I open my mouth, even if it comes off as crude or unapologetic or even at times harsh, it comes from the purest place of love. At the end of the day I truly never wanted to give 5 flying fucks about politics, our corrupt government, about your medical decisions or my own. I care about your choices, your thoughts, and the experiences in your life that have brought you right here, to this very moment in time. So let’s learn about eachother, and try a little harder before we join in on cancel culture.

We have been placed on this planet at this exact time because we have a calling to answer. A new story to write. And nobody that came before us was any different, or had it any easier. There is beauty in breaking down, falling apart and then piecing eachother back together. There is peace and light inside this darkness. And freedom on this new path will only work if we go it together. It doesn’t have to hurt forever. It doesn’t have to feel uncomfortable, forever. And it doesn’t have to divide us any further.

I will never shut up about what I believe in. I have lost friends and family along the way, and I’d never judge a soul for what they believe, what they fight for, what they’re passionate about, how they love their husband, how they make money to make their ends meet up, or how they raise their babies. I just always, want us all, to have a choice. So I’ll continue fighting with a fire of love burning inside me, screaming about what I believe, even if my voice breaks. Even if you make fun of me. Even if you think I’m crazy.

Because I once was you. Looking at someone screaming for their rights and for my rights. And I was clueless. But now I know better, so I’ll do better. And those crazies have become my best friends, my favorite conversationalists, and so much more.

I pray for you to have deep peace inside this wonderful season. I hope you gather with ALL the peeps you love, and I hope your heart is filled to the brim. I pray for you to be healthy, happy and stay humble with humility always.

From my freedom loving soul to yours, Merry Christmas ❤️✨