So. I wanna talk about connectedness. You know the kind I mean. The instant connections you can make with people. Where you lock eyes with someone; be it a man or a woman and you know it’s not the first time you’ve felt familiar looking into these eyes. Yes, maybe in this lifetime, but certainly not the first time. There’s something comforting to me about eyes, and after that, a person’s voice. (Perfect example is how everyone always says they miss somebody’s voice when they’re gone, yet I can always hear my moms voice when I need to. Clear as day in my head.) so I have this connectedness to eyes and voice, and my spiritual sense has guided me in all sorts of directions lately, but never in the wrong territory. Because now I know how to listen, and that the silence doesn’t always need to be interrupted by words.

This past week I spent a small part of my morning with a brand new friend of mine. Yet when I met her I felt like I had known her for a long long time. She opened up to me while we were walking through Homegoods, and then I felt like I could open up to her. But the truth is, we were already two open people galloping through a Friday morning rat race of shuffling kids off to school and leaving babies with family, and doing our part as moms and women in society (to all my classroom moms/pta moms/dance moms/cheer moms or moms that opt out of it all – HOLLA).

And it was just one of those experiences that happens and then it echoes through the rest of your day, and weekend, and then it finds itself in the heart of a Sunday afternoon blog. It’s people like this, that share some of their once, inner most secrets and fears with, life’s biggest challenges with, and of course, we talk about our children like they are living dreams coming to fruition every second of every day.

It got me thinking. Being connected is soooo so important. Feeling a draw to people and their heart stories and their beliefs and values that they’ve collected like ornaments over the years and hung them on a very strong and steady tree that you find yourself wanting to help water and nurture too, now that you know all about their collection. (Please excuse or don’t excuse the Christmas reference, I’m jolly AF this time of year)

Or how about when you have something going on in your life or just internally and you have a specific person in mind that you want to talk to about it? that’s the draw I’m talking about. Or how sometimes I only want to hear my mom’s advice or reaction to a situation or story? And I can’t? Instead of letting it drive me crazy, I look to the people that emulate exactly who my mom was to me. And I know I am so fucking lucky to have those people to be able to call, or drive to and cry to.

With this all being said, I want you to protect your connectedness, and especially this time of year. Or any times during the year that are heightened for you in any emotional way. Just because you let someone into one corner of your soul or body, or mind. It doesn’t mean that they can come into your space and throw their weight around like Jesus Christ. Just because you let them in, does not give them free reign all over your heart map. You allow what you allow. You teach people how to treat you, and you also teach people where your boundaries begin and end. There are some people who aren’t allowed inside my safe space anymore. Every day, I’m concocting a very detailed blueprint for my kids and the way I’m helping them navigate through life is up to my husband and me, not anyone else and mama bear ain’t letting anyone F with that!! I did that for myself after I’ve let people in and then they trampled all over my heart and my pride with their dirty shoes. (And you all know how I feel about dirty shoes) But they certainly won’t get the chance to mess up my kids, I’ll do that all on my own 😂♥️

So in this time of wonderment and festiveness, I’m going to encourage everyone to open up. Your hearts, your eyes, your souls. Open up to the people in your life and let them in. If they love your babies and they can be present in good laughs and hard conversations, they are your people. And for those that have come in and never left? Love them hard, for those are the rarest people in this journey through life. And for anyone looking for a sign to be able to let someone go? Once and for all? Here. It. Is. You can stop the vicious cycle now. You’ll be better off by next Christmas without that person. Let them GO. There’s no room inside your sacred head and heart space for people who suck the joy out things, make you doubt yourself or your life decisions, and even worse voice them out to the universe in your company.

You are worth your weight in gold. You are worth sharing my story with. I want to hear your stories. And I want to encourage you to give a little more of yourself rather than presents this season, because presence is what these trips around the sun are all about!

I wish you healthy, safety, love and happiness now and always. Enjoy the ones you love the most as we enter the madness that is 2 weeks and change before Christmas! God bless ✨