Idk about anyone else but I am FRESH out of fucks to give. Everyone’s opinions slathered all over my brain and stuffed into my ear holes is starting to really fucking get to me. Like I feel like I’m up to my eyeballs ready to blow my lid with the amount of unsolicited advice/comments/intrusive banter I hear in a day. 

Thankfully, that is not what this post is about and that’s why you love meh. 

Ok, so I had the pleasure of working a wedding this past weekend. Call me crazy (read old) but I sincerely feel like I’m reaching a point of mental nirvana in that for the first time in my life, I actually feel like the things that don’t directly involve me, absolutely do not affect me. Family drama, politics, stories of money gone wrong, relationships, blah blah blah. It really doesn’t bother me. Where I once felt SO INCLINED to share my piece of mind and let everyone know how sunshiney life can be; or commiserated with the person complaining, I now, instead, just keep my damn mouth shut.

What. A concept. 

Ok so I wake up at 7 am on the Saturday of MDW, and I enjoy an alone cuppa joe on my deck that sits in front of my forever wild woods and enjoyed the humid and peaceful moments by myself. I’ve been practicing the power of positive thinking and the law of attraction lately so I took this time to put good energy and positive vibes out into what could have been a stressful start to my holiday weekend. 

My homegirl and I banged out some beautiful upstyles while blowing through boxes of bobby pins and three cans of hairspray. The girls looked topnotch-beautiful and it went off without a hitch.

Here’s what I’m gathering now that I’m learning to keep my mouth closed and my ears open, and not adding my two cents and certainly not agreeing by comparison. 

We women are extremely hard on ourselves. Grown woman after grown woman sat in my chair listing their flaws in how their head is too round, their hair is too fine, their hair is too short, their dress is the biggest size, they are the shortest, their zit is ruining their life.  OMG. Maybe I’m lucky that I don’t have a huge selection of people in my life that are so self deprecating but I was drained! Just listening was honestly making me tired. 

And then, the flower girl. Sweet, zesty little flower girl. Her confidence was thick like the air. She danced into my chair and wanted to stand in the mirror and watch my every move. I sat on the chair behind her and began. Her little smile, with every strand I pinned into place, grew brighter. Her verbiage was my favorite: “mommy LOOK how pretty I am! Oh my Goodness! Look at me!” 

Her mother watched with sheer joy. As she should have. That mother should be so proud of her little beam of sunshine. I couldn’t have been happier to witness the mother daughter bond and all the positivity these two girls exuded through a simple exchange. It was cause for a celebration, and I was proud to be part of it. 

Be confident. Be happy. Dance rather than walk if the occasion allows. Talk nicely to yourself. Speak nicely to others. Love yourself. Stop placing blame and placing hate and using words to destroy some of the only good stuff left. Innocence is only around in so many forms and we as adults need to water it, protect it, and hold onto it as tight as we can.  I want to give a shoutout to this particular momma, and all the mommas that are out there raising their children with love and positivity, peace and light ✨ 

Let the sunshine in. Keep the hate out. Include positivity in your every day. If you find yourself down a wonky path, look up and then look within. Celebrate little things. Let go of a grudge. Feel the lightness of not bearing any more crosses. Say one nice thing to yourself every morning and every night. Bonus points if you can dish out two compliments today ☀️ 

HAPPY HUMP DAY FRIENDS!